Note to all my followers – Moving Site

Hi All – I love that you have followed me and sorry I have been quiet for a long time. I am planning to start writing again and would love to have your following at my new site. Please can I request that you take a look at my new location at

Sir Romantic Dominant

The old content is there and all new content will be there from now on. In a month or two I shall delete the old site.


Thanks for your support. Tumblr is not going to be much of a platform for much linger and so it is time to build the community here. I hope my learning and self growth helps others. I enjoy all your posts too folks.


Attending Our First Fetish Event

Tomorrow sees My Baby Girl and I attending our first D/s public event. We are trying a fetish dinner party with a long established “orgainisation”. Some purchases of new gear have been made –  Baby Girl has lots of sexy outfits but surely one can never have too many heels and outfits? No? Hahahaha.

What generally has been lacking is what I can wear – so some goth / steam punk wear has been ordered. Baby Girl seemed suitably pleased to see me in my goth /rock boots, PVC trousers and steam punk waitcoat. In addition, this little jaunt will serve as a useful exercise in trying out and establishing new public protocols. And of course we are rather hoping to meet a few new friends within this community. Friends from whom we can learn – I am quite sure we shall be the least experienced kinksters there. Maybe not. At least the event is specifically for D/s couples.

I hope Baby Girl is ok – I know she is a little nervous, yet excited and up for it.

Somehow the excitement and anticipation of what lies ahead is titilating and allowing my rather electric imagination run riot.

The whole hotel is ours with a fully equipped dungeon there – just in case Pretty Girl is a naughty girl during the evening! She might want some extra dessert after dinner – who knows?

I shall report back following our evening of fun and naughtiness. She looks AMAZING in her outfits – had to try them on last night – and yes it ended up with a good spanking session.


Having read a blog recently from Missy  ( by the same title I thought I should share my musings upon this subject.

As a Zen student and someone who has experience and interests in psychology and anthropology, I believe there are many people in life who are seekers, folks searching for understanding and a greater experience of existence. When we are born we are as pure as we shall ever be. Pure energy, pure love. This may be why we love small children and babies so much. They express themselves so purely. In time we learn we must have our own defences to protect ourselves from threats in this world – real or perceived! Life throws things at us, we are deeply hurt by people – most of all emotionally.  So to reveal our hearts, take off all the layers and masks lays us bare and hence vulnerable. But for me the people we are closest to are surely people we should feel most at ease to open up to. This is why trust is so important in life and why it is one of the pillars of BDSM and frankly all good closely connected relationships. Continue reading Vulnerability

High Heels- Oh My God!

IMG_6876.PNGI have always had a high heel and foot fetish. I have no idea why and it is interesting to me because I am so innately Dominant. Some might suggest that high heels are quite a dominant thing- think about the Domme Madamme. Ball busting and trampling and the spike which is sooo powerful.

Now I feel that for me it is just about embracing and enhancing the feminine. I have been told- all guys like high heels. I guess they do, but my like of heels is undoubtedly a megga fetish. I love looking at women walking in them, shoe dangling, hearing that click click click as they walk across a tiled or wooden floor of outside. Actually does crazy things inside me – besides the obvious effect on my loins.

Generally I prefer the normal classy stiletto heel but can find for the right scene that slutty platform, spiky, wacky ones can be very appropriate. When Baby Girl needs to be less of the elegant refined lady she is (or can be) and more of the slutty tart. I like a bit of rough sometimes! And I don’t mean rough sex. Though I like that too sometimes- so does Baby Girl. Continue reading High Heels- Oh My God!