Attending Our First Fetish Event

Tomorrow sees My Baby Girl and I attending our first D/s public event. We are trying a fetish dinner party with a long established “orgainisation”. Some purchases of new gear have been made –  Baby Girl has lots of sexy outfits but surely one can never have too many heels and outfits? No? Hahahaha.

What generally has been lacking is what I can wear – so some goth / steam punk wear has been ordered. Baby Girl seemed suitably pleased to see me in my goth /rock boots, PVC trousers and steam punk waitcoat. In addition, this little jaunt will serve as a useful exercise in trying out and establishing new public protocols. And of course we are rather hoping to meet a few new friends within this community. Friends from whom we can learn – I am quite sure we shall be the least experienced kinksters there. Maybe not. At least the event is specifically for D/s couples.

I hope Baby Girl is ok – I know she is a little nervous, yet excited and up for it.

Somehow the excitement and anticipation of what lies ahead is titilating and allowing my rather electric imagination run riot.

The whole hotel is ours with a fully equipped dungeon there – just in case Pretty Girl is a naughty girl during the evening! She might want some extra dessert after dinner – who knows?

I shall report back following our evening of fun and naughtiness. She looks AMAZING in her outfits – had to try them on last night – and yes it ended up with a good spanking session.

Interesting Psychology Article

Interesting read I happened upon – nothing ground breaking but presents at the end some interesting scientific research into what is effectively sub space and Dom space. As a Dom and Martial Artist and Zen student / teacher I found it fascinating that Dom enters “flow” which is a focus state of mind. Similar to that attained in martial arts.



Having read a blog recently from Missy  ( by the same title I thought I should share my musings upon this subject.

As a Zen student and someone who has experience and interests in psychology and anthropology, I believe there are many people in life who are seekers, folks searching for understanding and a greater experience of existence. When we are born we are as pure as we shall ever be. Pure energy, pure love. This may be why we love small children and babies so much. They express themselves so purely. In time we learn we must have our own defences to protect ourselves from threats in this world – real or perceived! Life throws things at us, we are deeply hurt by people – most of all emotionally.  So to reveal our hearts, take off all the layers and masks lays us bare and hence vulnerable. But for me the people we are closest to are surely people we should feel most at ease to open up to. This is why trust is so important in life and why it is one of the pillars of BDSM and frankly all good closely connected relationships. Continue reading Vulnerability